Even though some time has passed since your girlfriend broke up with you, it seems like she is still all that you can think about. Even when you try and think of another woman… you go right back to thinking about her again. You know that deep down inside… you want to get back together with her. I mean, if you knew without any hesitation that you could get her back and she would not reject you, you would do it in a heart beat.
Still, you know that it probably is not going to be like that. You know that you can’t just tell your ex girlfriend the way that you feel and then expect that she is going to reveal that she has been feeling the same exact way. You are going to have to try and find a way to make her feel just like you do. The problem with that is, you don’t know how to make her feel that way about you.
One of the problems and it happens to just about every guy that gets dumped, is that you lose that confidence that you once had with her. There was a time when you did not even question whether or not she was attracted to you, you just knew that she was. To get back to that point is what you need to do, but it certainly is going to be hard to do that.
Unless, you have a system that will help to re attract her and bring your confidence back to the level that it used to be at.
When you have a pretty complex relationship problem, the worst thing that you can do is just approach it haphazardly. You don’t want to risk making the wrong choices or doing or saying the wrong things so that your ex girlfriend just feels like you are a jerk. So, that is why I say that you should have some kind of a system for getting her back.
Not only that, getting your confidence back up to par is not a choice, it is mandatory. If you go back to your ex girlfriend looking like a shell of your former self, do you really expect her to be attracted to you in that state? And do you expect her to want to get back with you if she is not attracted to you? It’s the combination of having a system to make her feel attracted to you AND regaining your confidence that will help you to get your ex back.